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Aidpage Open Letter: Single mom, Widowed, doesn't qualify for help from the government

Rennie Joy started this conversation
Feb 9, 2011

To the attention of:

Barack Obama, US President;
Rick Scott, Governor of Florida;
US Senators from Florida: Bill Nelson, Marco Rubio;
US Representatives from Florida: Adam H. Putnam, Alan Grayson, Alcee L. Hastings, Allen Boyd, Ander Crenshaw, Bill Posey, C. W. Bill Young, Cliff Stearns, Connie Mack, Corrine Brown, Debbie Wasserman Schultz, Ginny Brown-Waite, Gus M. Bilirakis, Ileana Ros-Lehtinen, Jeff Miller, John L. Mica, Kathy Castor, Kendrick B. Meek, Lincoln Diaz-Balart, Mario Diaz-Balart, Ron Klein, Sandy Adams, Theodore E. Deutch, Thomas J. Rooney, Vern Buchanan;
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I am a widow and  single mother of two sons. I am fortunte enough to get social security survivor's benefits for myself and my sons however I have not been able to find any other type of aid. I run out of money 2 weeks after receiving my monthly payment which means I struggle for neccessities such as food, water, electric, etc... I do not qualify for food stamps or pretty much any kind of assistance because I apparently get too much money. I have a large amount of credit card debt am I suppose to not pay the money I owe in order to support my family. It just doesn't seem fair and I can't be the only one in this situation. I do not feel it's right to not pay my debts, true I should not have gotten into the financial troubles but I have found out that I have bipolar disorder which explains to a degree why I am in this situation. Why isn't there help for middle class people who want to be able to get a head but can't. My 2 sons eat a lot and I spend a lot on groceries. My property taxes are due and I have no idea how I will pay them. I see other states with outreach programs for widows but most of the help is for widows of veterns. Sorry my husband didn't serve in the military but he was a good provider and I just want to be able to feed, cloth, and property shelter my kids.

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marinedavet
Aug 30, 2011
 in response to Windy104...   To anyone who are Dependents of a Veteran, get in touch with me, have helped and assist a ,lot of dependents from WW l, WWll, Vietnam, Korea, Afghanistan and Iraq.
TO THE WORLD YOU ARE ONE PERSON, TO ONE PERSON YOU ARE THE WORLD.
marinedavet
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marinedavet
Aug 30, 2011
 in response to Relieved Widow...   Hi Renny, If your husband has served at any time in the Military and is a Veteran, I can help. I have helped Dependents from Veterans every day. marinedavet.
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Relieved Widow
Aug 26, 2011
 in response to Rennie Joy...   Hi Rennie. I haven't posted on here in a while but just got back on today. I Know about those survivor benefits. My daughters father died when they were 15 and 17. I couldn't draw because i worked and "Made too much money". I don't understand. He paid that in. My first daughter only drew a check for a few months, till she turned 18 and the other the same. They are now 19 and 22. I never did get any Widow benefits but had I not worked all my life i would have qualified for a lot more. Just wanted to say I agree.
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A Concerned Citizen
Jul 24, 2011
 in response to Windy104...   Windy - I sincerely feel bad for you regarding the loss of your husband. However, I can't understand why you, and so many other Americans, have children they can't afford? You have four children, WHY? Can you afford four kids? As Dr. Phil says, "what were you thinking?" Children are expensive and require RESPONSIBLE adults, not just someone who can get pregnant. Prior to becoming pregnant the first time did you and your husband make responsible decisions?; i.e., did you consider funding sources, healthcare coverage (not from the government), life insurance, etc?
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Windy104
Jul 16, 2011
I live in Alabama and am a widow/single mom and also am struggling.I have four children and can't even get help with childcare to go back to work.It's ridiculous that other single moms that aren't widowed and make way more money than my little survivor benefits gets free childcare,free housing, and foodstamps while all I can get help with 400 a month in foodstamps..I haven't been able to afford insurance, doctor bills, surgeries,or credit card payments in yrs and so now am in debt,just because Im a widow...??
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singlemomof918
May 23, 2011
EXACTLY! Isn't it interesting that some of us don't qualify for assistance, yet struggle to make ends meet. Then there are those that know how to play the system and take less paying jobs to qualify for assistance and at the end of the month...they make more money than those of us struggling! Frustrating!!!! It doesn't always seem its better to do the right thing...
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Rennie Joy
Feb 9, 2011
I am a single mom with 2 young sons and lost my husband 2 1/2 yrs ago. I receive social security survivor benefits and apparently my benefit is too large to even receive food stamps. I struggle every month to purchase food, pay my bill, and cloth my children. I have outrageous credit card debt and now my cards are maxed out. Why isn't there more help out there for people like me? How can someone who's son's lunch account runs out of money, who has no money to buy groceries by the end of the month, and who's utilities are constantly being shut off not qualify for free/discounted lunches, or food stamps. Why don't people consider credit card debt in many outreach programs. My credit card debt is mostly my normal expenses charged onto the card after my checking account runs dry. Anyway have any ideas???? email joy13rod@yahoo.com
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